A lasting relationship is not easy. When making a decision, you should think about the other person. You have to be careful with his or her feelings. And at the same time, you have to look for your happiness.
Strong couples are, first of all, strong individuals, who are self-confident and, therefore, can afford to be vulnerable in a relationship.
A strong relationship depends on the understanding and appreciation between the two people. You should seek a relationship with a person that makes you more intelligent, better, and stronger.
Here are the 20 things that strong couples do differently:
1. Avoid making your partner jealous
When you are in a solid relationship, where both parties receive enough attention and care, there is no need to seek more attention, much less through such a low level tactic as jealousy.
Making your partner wonder about your level of commitment to the relationship fuels insecurity, and that is not what you are looking for in a relationship, is it?
2. They don't check each other's phone
Having the need to check your partner's cell phone is a sign that you don't trust him or her. Once you start inquiring on your partner's phone, everything will get worse.
(On the other hand, do not say through text messages what you would not dare to say out loud. Many times we embolden ourselves through a screen and in the end we end up repenting.)
3. They are not conformist with the relationship
Even the most stable couples understand that you have to work hard for a relationship.
Strong couples strive day by day. They are grateful to have the other person by their side. They give space to growth and say "I love you" feeling it really.
4. They do not compare their relationship with the previous ones
When we compare, there will always be a winner and a loser. Just understand that each relationship is different, and what made one special, may not be as important in the other.
It is possible to have more than one successful relationship in life. Strong couples focus on the relationship they are currently in, not past ones.
5. Do not share the status of your relationship on Facebook
If it is really important for you to put your marital status on social networks to validate the relationship, then, probably, you are not mature enough to be in a real one.
6. Do not insist on being together all day
Stable couples do not need to spend time with each other 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. In fact, they don't want to be together all the time. They know that it is important to continue to maintain their independence and their own interests outside the relationship.
That means watching the movie you want with your friends, going out for coffee or going to the gym alone. Rest assured that your partner wants to enjoy his own life, and of course he wants you to do the same.
7. Avoid complaining about the other's defects
Strong couples know the other person's weaknesses, and instead of complaining and making them feel bad about it, they support them.
It may be that he is lousy preparing a surprise, and you can never organize your schedule well, but instead of criticizing you accept, and that is what makes the relationship work.
8. Do not seek to change the other
You fell in love with him or her for a reason, not to see it as a project. Solid couples do not seek to change the appearance of the other person. Or make it more expressive or less talkative.
Happy couples are in love with the person in front of them.
9. They will never compete with each other
There is a huge difference between challenging your partner and competing with him or her. When you propose a challenge, the two seek to be a better person. But, when they compete, someone has to lose.
It's not about who bought dinner, or who chose where to go out, but to make your partner happy and be happy, but selflessly.
10. Things are not prohibited
Restrictions limit growth in a relationship. Establishing "rules" that prohibit certain things from each other will only cause them to feel mutual resentment.
We know perfectly well that you do not want to see your girlfriend go out in the streets with excessively short shorts, just as she does not want to hear that you went out with your ex to have a coffee, but they have to be completely sure of their partner to avoid restrictions.
11. They will not soften the truth
They are a strong couple because together they built that fortress. That means they will always be honest with each other, even if it is not what they want to hear.
12. Never insult each other's family
Feeling comfortable enough to insult your partner's family is like thinking that it is acceptable to make critical comments about his or her weight or physical appearance. This is only acceptable when the person next to you does it.
13. They do not spend asking where the other person is
Solid couples do not need to be in touch all the time. They are not consumed by the idea of what the other person is doing or distrust where they are.
14. They don't get drunk to like each other anymore
In truth you can enjoy the other person much more being totally sober and attentive.
15. They don't need to be together all the time
The fact that you spend all day with your partner does not mean that you have a solid relationship. The ability to separate from each other makes their bonds stronger.
No one likes that couple that cannot be separated for a second. It's too much. It is not genuine. In a relationship it is just as important to stay close to your friends and family as to your partner.
16. Never deny physical affection
The sexual component in a relationship is just as important as the emotional part.
17. They will never humble themselves publicly
Humiliating your partner, especially when there are other people, and doing it on purpose, is definitely a reason to break the relationship. There are ways to express yourself, and there are also ways to not do it.
18. Do not compare your relationship with others
When you compare your relationship with others, there will always be times when they will fall short.
Strong couples do not base their value on what happens to the outside world. They focus on themselves and know that what they have is good.
19. Do not get angry without motives
Successful couples have the ability to talk about what bothers them, without being afraid of how the other person will react.
Feeling angry without giving your partner an explanation is not fair at all.
20. They don't go to bed alone
Even if they are not physically together, they always are in their hearts.